Grief Articles

The Letter
© A. Edrich
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It is my understanding that this book was written with the hope and prayer that those looking to reach out and heal a hurting soul will pick up this book, read the material, and gain wisdom in learning how to reach out and help someone in pain.

With that in mind, I wrote this letter in hopes to not only help you find comfort, but to help lay the foundation for others looking for the right words to help their loved ones move one step closer to healing, by walking through their grief.

Please read this letter with the good intentions it was meant. Modify it. Personalize it. And use it as you see fit—to help someone you know begin the process of healing, by letting him/her know that you are there. Perhaps he/she won’t call on you right away, but believe me when I say that he/she will read your written words over and over again and find just a bit of comfort and solace in knowing that you cared enough to reach out.

Dear Beloved,

I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot express how my heart aches for you. I know that no amount of words, and no amount of “doing things” for you can ever take away the pain you feel, or the hole that now fills your heart.

I know that it’s hard to get out of bed. I know it hurts every time you see someone happy—the way you used to be happy. I know that you are torn inside. I understand that a part of you wants to be happy for others, but you are still hurting and so very angry at life—for the injustice of it all. It's hard, and it sucks. I won’t deny you those feelings. And I won’t try to make you feel or do something you are not ready to do.

I just want you to know that I’m here for you…that I love you…that God loves you…and that no matter how angry you get at life, or how much you lash out at me and the world around you, I’m not going anywhere.

I will be here when you need a shoulder to cry on. I will be here when you need someone to scream at. I will be here when you need someone to help you get out of bed in the morning. I will be here when you need someone to feed your cat. I will be here when you need someone to take your kids to school, or buy your groceries, or make sure your electricity doesn’t get turned off. And I will be here when you need someone to feed you because you’ve refused to eat. Whatever you need, I am here.

And when I’m not here, you can write to me in the journal I’ve enclosed. Or perhaps you’ll use it to write to the one you’ve lost or to simply express your feelings. Or perhaps, just perhaps, you’ll use it to help sort out your feelings by writing to God.

They say vocalizing your feelings helps you begin the healing process.

Whatever you choose to do with it and whomever you choose to write to, know that I love you and that I’m here for you. I pray you find comfort and solace in the fact that you are not alone.

And though I doubt the pain will ever fully go away, or the hole in your heart will ever fully heal, I pray that the pain eases enough that you can once again enjoy the days you have left and the lives of your loved ones.

All my love,

XXXOOOXXXOOO
Forever your friend

* This is an excerpt from Girlfriend's Guide To Grief

About The Author:
Alyice Edrich believes that eulogies, written from the heart, pay respect to the deceased, and give honor to his/her memory. Hire Alyice to help you write your eulogy, tribute, or funeral speech. Learn More

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